Comfort Costs
I was stuck in a relationship. Even in arguments: oh, you can go when you want to, you can go if you want to. But I low key always wanted to leave when we would say those things to each other. I didn’t leave, because we were together, and I was never the person to go from person to person in relationships. I grew up too fast. And so in my early 20s, I found myself stuck, playing house with someone who I knew wasn’t gonna go anywhere. That’s stuck. That’s when leveling up goes wrong.
I leveled up my situation with not having to go to work anymore. That’s where I leveled up. Now I’m happy, cause I’m working for myself and it’s paying off. And I got a sponsor who loves me, who’s not a sugar daddy, just believes in me. So there’s another way you guys can level up.
So back to the nightmare living. I could never keep my feet clean, because it wasn’t dirt, it wasn’t sand, it was dust. You’re missing out on nice pedicures, because when you do get your feet done, it’s not gonna last because of where you live. The level up was a level down compared to how I was living. I was just an adult, and I didn’t wanna go back to my mom’s house. And so I was like, you know what? You like men. One plus one equals two. It’s time to settle down. And I found somebody who I loved and totally adored from afar. Still do. Amazing person.
I was stuck, because when you’re committed to a person in a relationship, you’re not just gonna up and leave. This is why you should not commit at a lower standard of living. Very tricky. What if you can’t get out of it?
So don’t get caught up in the good man. It doesn’t mean he loves you, and it doesn’t mean that y’all going to be able to level up together. It does not mean he has it in him to do better, even though you might see good in him. I didn’t suffer and struggle behind this man, but I did miss out on some of the best years of my life, which is my twenties. I stayed for a long time. And so when I used to dress up, I stopped. That’s a backwards level up. Can you believe it? My mom used to look at me like I was crazy, coming around with head scarves. I had totally checked out of society, and you’d be lucky to catch me checking the mail. My friends had to come get me out the house, and the only time I left the house was to go to the gym or go to my mom’s house. I checked out. I was not living.
So leveling up backwards, leveling down, as it were. I completely let myself go as a young lady. Some people used to be like, girl, you spoiled, girl. He got an A plus for everything except for leveling up. I was confident, proud, all of that, but the level up wasn’t real, and it showed. When they say the person is rough around the edges, that’s what they mean. Not completely polished off.
I wasted a lot of time. There were a couple of opportunities that I had to leave, but I stayed because of comfort. I wasn’t comfortable with the surroundings, but I was comfortable with knowing. I was comfortable with the routine, but I hated routine in general. And it costs. Comfort costs. Sometimes being comfortable can cost you the best things in your life, but you never get to experience.
My point is, your mind and your gut and your intuition will tell you when to leave. Listen to it. Wanna know why? It’s the goddesses talking to you. They’re like, hold on now, it’s still early. They always have your best interest at heart, and they have to experience something through you, and if they cannot, they will leave you. They will leave you to get abused. All those abused women, it’s not always their fault, but the goddesses can only come down so low. All they do is nudge you, tap you, push on you. They don’t ever really force themselves. But they show up over and over again, in your mom’s pictures, in your dreams, in your thoughts. They make things very, very clear.
And this channel is not all about the sugar daddy, but the sugar daddy is 100% and one percent welcome. And so is the mentality of you ladies who believe that kings can only be knighted by a queen. You’re welcome. But that doesn’t mean turn a man into a king. No, he proves himself, and then bow down.
When you level down, you get rid of your opportunities for leveling up with someone else. I noticed when you stay with a person who’s leveled down for long enough, you start losing suitors. You shouldn’t put yourself through that, because one day you’re gonna be my age. Preserve your youth.