It’s Always His Loss
Everybody knows it’s about self love. Everyone knows by now that you can’t get a guy when you have low self esteem. Doesn’t matter how good you look. Everybody knows now. It’s not a secret anymore. So people who fight against it, I’m here to catch them. I’m here to catch the people who fall through the cracks, who don’t get it, who can’t get it. But I do make you aware that you are behind, and that you are lame as f, and that you need to hurry up and move forward. Get with the times. Start treating yourself a certain way. Then you can make all the mistakes that you wanna make. As long as you have yourself at a certain point, you should be able to go out there, do whatever you wanna do, make as many mistakes as you want, as long as you keep yourself up and high. As long as you don’t put somebody else’s needs in front of yours. As long as you take care of yourself, and not trying to mother a man who you claim you’re in a romantic relationship with.
Another thing, I had a thought the other day. Women stay sad for a long time over guys who aren’t worth it, because out of their mouth they’re saying, oh, I can get another one, oh, it’s okay. But in their heart, they feel like they can’t get somebody else. In their heart, they feel like somebody else is better than them. They feel like they’re no good. They feel like they’re not enough. They feel like, uh oh, I’m gonna turn him off and he’s not gonna come back. And when you care about yourself and you love yourself, you don’t care if he comes back. Period. It’s his loss, and that’s gonna be all the time. It’s always his loss, and that would be true if you love yourself. But see, we don’t be loving ourselves, and we say, oh, it’s his loss.
No, you have been protected. That’s why y’all ain’t together no more. Things happen to protect people. They’re not allowed to continue in a relationship with a particular individual because it’s protection, cause the person’s eyes are not open. Like, when you have a high self esteem, a lot of times you wanna be with a person and everything gets in the way. It’s because that person is not good enough for you, period. I don’t like saying words like good enough for you, but there are levels, and some people are good enough for you, and some people aren’t. You just have to be okay with that. You wouldn’t let your child date anybody.
The narcissist, they can smell low self esteem. Some of those guys will pick up on the low self esteem, and then they’ll just turn you into a princess or a queen. But the low vibrating man, this is why you have to date up. When the low vibration person picks up on your low self esteem, he might hit you. He surely is gonna treat you like dirt. He gonna treat you like trash. It’s the way you carry yourself. And there’s middles, y’all. I don’t want to be speaking in definite terms of high vibe, low vibe. There are levels, and so your goal should be a clear sight on what level are you with this person.
I was dating a person. I was his boo thang, but not his main squeeze. So when he would get all stressed out, I was the one to call. When things were all well, the main squeeze was the one getting all the attention. Yes, I was getting the goods, all that other stuff that the wife don’t get. But where it counts, I wasn’t getting it. I wasn’t going out, I wasn’t getting the shopping, I wasn’t getting cared for, I wasn’t getting the money. The main squeeze is the long haul. The boo thang is short term, and she don’t get nothing.